By Liu Yang
He Could Finally See Clearly the Source of Pain
Zhaoyang felt a great release in his heart after he understood God’s domination. However, he was still puzzling about why he ultimately received such a painful result after his painstaking efforts for the marriage. That was until several passages of God’s words made Zhaoyang get the answer. God’s words say: “Satan uses this method to invent, fabricate and play out some stories, and it especially deceives these simple-minded, brainless adolescents. Have you been influenced at all? (Yes.) Is it then easy to remove and cleanse yourselves of this poison? Once you have been influenced, these things enter your thoughts and become a kind of poison. You only need to fail to see through this poison and you will then be unable to give it up completely; if you are influenced by it for one day, you will be disturbed and controlled by it for that one day.” “When you repeatedly investigate and carefully dissect the various goals that people pursue in life and their myriad ways of living, you will find not one of them conforms to the Creator’s original intention with which He created humanity. All of them draw people away from the Creator’s sovereignty and care; they are all traps which cause people to become depraved, and which lead them to hell. After you recognize this, your task is to lay aside your old view of life, stay far from various traps, let God take charge of your life and make arrangements for you; it is to try only to submit to God’s orchestrations and guidance, to live without individual choice, and to become a person who worships God.”
After reading God’s words, Zhaoyang understood that Satan uses different kinds of TV series to indoctrinate us with views such as “Love is better than ever,” “Life is dear, love is dearer,” “What on earth is love, that makes lovers vow to stick together in life and death?” and “The lovers will finally get married.” These lies are used by Satan to deceive and control our hearts in order that we may regard the beautiful love and marriage as the aim of life to pursue. Moreover, we firmly believe that a beautiful result will be achieved as long as we can make efforts for it sincerely. So then we just rely on our own capabilities to strive for it. However, when he saw the real life differs from his imagination and expectation, he felt a suffering in the heart. Furthermore, when he couldn’t live harmoniously together with the person he like, he was more pained in his heart, which made him feel worse than death. All of these arose from Satan’s affliction. Only then did he know that the marriage is arranged by God and cannot be changed by anyone. Moreover, everyone has their own characters, preferences and perspectives; especially all of mankind have selfish, arrogant and other corrupt dispositions after being corrupted by Satan. Therefore, the other will not do things totally based on his will and he cannot spend for her selflessly. That kind of love with perfection and nobility shown in the TV series doesn’t exist in reality. Zhaoyang understood that only by coming down to earth to accept God’s rule and arrangements, viewing and doing things according to God’s words and properly dealing with all of the people, events and things he encounters, can he shake off these sufferings and Satan’s torment.
Guided by God’s Love, He Gained Happiness
By chance, Zhaoyang met his present wife Xinyu. She accepted God’ kingdom gospel as well. From their conversation, Zhaoyang knew that Xinyu had experienced a rugged marriage as he did. After getting to know each other for a while, they had understood one another and fell in love, feeling as if they had already found the other half of their life. At this time, Zhaoyang knew that this was God’s rule and arrangement! After that, they got married and have their lovely children. Although their life is not rich, their family are living in happiness and they care about and understand each other. Moreover, they would fellowship about God’s words to address problems they met. What moved Zhaoyang most was that the marriage arranged by God was far better than it chosen by his own will. Bing Yan is grumpy, while Xinyu is dignified and upright, cultured and talented, tender and virtuous. Perhaps this is the difference between a believer in God and an unbeliever.
One morning, Zhaoyang saw a passage of God’s words: “One encounters many people in one’s life, but no one knows who will become one’s partner in marriage. Though everyone has their own ideas and personal stances on the subject of marriage, no one can foresee who will truly, finally become their other half, and one’s own ideas on the matter count for little. After meeting someone you like, you can pursue that person; but whether they are interested in you, whether they are able to become your partner—that is not yours to decide. The object of your affections is not necessarily the person with whom you will be able to share your life; and meanwhile, someone you never expected may quietly enter your life and become your partner, the most important element in your fate, your other half, to whom your fate is inextricably bound. … Whether marriage itself brings happiness or pain, everyone’s mission in marriage is predestined by the Creator and will not change; this mission is something that everyone must complete. The fate of each person that lies behind every marriage is unchanging, determined long in advance by the Creator.”
At this time, Zhaoyang vividly experienced God’s almightiness and sovereignty and a happy smile emerged on his face. Zhaoyang was grateful for the salvation of God for him from his heart. God has arranged such a marriage for him and made him find a like-minded true partner. They have walked the path of believing in God together. They pray to and worship God, sing hymns to praise God and open up their hearts to fellowship on God’s words. Although sometimes they didn’t get along with each other in their lives, after that they would come before God and examine themselves through reading God’s words, apologize and open their hearts to each other. Currently, Zhaoyang is fulfilling duties at church, which gets the support of his wife. He didn’t expect that the happy marriage he dreamed of would have become reality under the leadership of God. At this time, Zhaoyang bowed his head and thought about his experiences in the past. In order to pursue the so-called faithful and solemn pledge of marriage, he had relied on his own capabilities to strive for it. However, all his pains went for nothing in the end. Although the first marriage brought great harm and suffering to him, through it he understood that people’s fate and marriage are controlled by the hands of God. It was God’s words that made him realize that only by putting aside our personal extravagant demands and desires, obeying God’s orchestration and arrangements, will we obtain the leadership and grace of God, gain God’s mercy and blessings and live in the light. At this time, Zhaoyang comes to deeply understand that the marriage and family arranged for him by God are the best!
The End
Part One: How He Gained the Marriage He Yearned For (I)
